I was out doing some yardwork this past weekend. For the record, I love beautiful gardens, but hate gardening. I'm more inclined to pick the plants and design the garden and then leave the actual dirty work to my husband.
But this past Sunday, I got out of the house and started tending to some of the overgrown areas in our yard. This in anticipation of my favorite season -- fall. Crisp air, the changing leaves, visits to the pumpkin patch...aaahh, I am so ready for the fall.
As I pulled the weeds from the various beds, I was amazed at how they had become overrun. Without regular attention, the flowers that were so carefully picked out when the garden was initially planned, were quickly being choked out by unwanted invaders. Choke weed wrapped itself around butterfly bushes and russian sage slowly draining the life out of them.
It got me to thinking of the correlation between gardening and raising children. Had I REALLY been tending to my children the way I needed to be? Of course their physical needs are being met, but have I been meeting their emotional needs? Was I allowing weeds to interfere with my parenting? For example, had I been expending my energies in other areas to the detriment of my interactions with my kids? My "weeds" would include working on my business, excessive computer time, tending to the house, etc. Motherly guilt started setting in and I realized that I was disconnecting and my priorities were out of whack.
In the end, I was able to get the gardens tended to and my priorities back in order. The flowers are now thriving...and more importantly, so are my kids.
What does your garden look like?