It is a common complaint from the moms I work with that the kids listen more to their father than them. Why could this be? Hmmm. Let's explore this further by the use of an example:
Your four year old is jumping up and down on the couch. You say: "Joey, stop jumping on the couch. If you keep jumping up and down you are going to fall off and get hurt, then I am going to have to take you to the emergency room to fix your broken arm. Have you ever been to an emergency room? It isn't a fun place. You have to wait a long time and fill out a bunch or forms. Anyhow, we can't afford a visit to the emergency room. Are you listening to me? I said STOP JUMPING ON THE COUCH!"
Joey heard: "Joey, stop blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah..." (Insert the voice of the teacher from Charlie Brown and you get the effect).
Dad says: "Joey, get off the couch." (With a firm I mean business kind of voice.)
Joey hears: "Joey, get of the couch."
What is the difference? MOMS USE WAAAAY TO MANY WORDS! Now, I am just as guilty as the rest of you for doing this and this continues to be an area for me to work on. You see dads instinctively know to use fewer words for better results. Most dads also have that firm tone that when their kids hear it, they know dad means business.
So to all the dads out there, keep up the good work. For the mom's, let's learn from the men and keep it simple so we can get better results too!